I work as one of few at the powerful intersection of intimacy, sexuality, trauma and pelvic health, doing so all from a body-oriented (somatic) starting point. That combination is unique. It allows me to go really deep with my clients, and I can approach their problems and obstacles from all kinds of routes.

This is especially valuable because problems in intimacy and sexuality are  more often than not rooted in trauma and/or physical problems in the pelvis. In both cases I can probably help you. And if not, because of my multidisciplinary background I have a strong network of professionals to whom I can refer you (depending on where you are in the world, of course).

There are only a few practical things that you really need to get into place: (1) a solid and stable internet connection, (2) having Zoom installed and your audio/video settings checked, and (3) privacy! You need to feel free to speak and share without holding back about what is going on inside of you, and for most people it is simply not helpful if they feel there’s a partner, housemate or kid nearby that’s potentially eavesdropping or can walk in at any moment. So always strive to create a space and time for our sessions that allows you to go all in without disturbances.

That depends on you entirely! Exercises and homework which we co-design or which I suggest will help solidify your process in between sessions. I may invite you slightly out of your comfort zone, but will make sure to never overwhelm you because that is simply not helpful.  I am a huge fan of the ‘tiny habit philosophy’  and strongly believe that repeating a short practice regularly is more ‘productive’ than doing a huge, daylong thing only once.   

If you find yourself currently in a very challenging state concerning your mental health, I strongly recommend you find professional counseling for that first and foremost.  You deserve specialist support for your specific situation, e.g. with a psychologist or counselor trained to help you stabilize. After that, I am here to help you move from ‘stable’ to ‘thriving’. This means we can start our work together once you feel stable and curious again, and desiring more than stability.

Regarding past trauma, of course you can do trauma healing work with me as well. But in case you have never worked on your traumatic experiences (e.g. through therapy), I strongly recommend you seek a good psychologist first and foremost and come back to me at a later time.

Honestly, the majority of us humans have trouble connecting to our bodies, because our cultures and societies are often so focused on the brain! Even in most regular mental health and coaching modalities, the focus is on some sort of ‘talk therapy’ that taps mostly into our rational thinking brain and leaves our body out of the picture. So in short, don’t worry if you have no idea how to get there just yet: it turns out you’re a perfectly normal human being!

It is my art and pleasure to help you learn to connect to your body and bodymind. You can trust that with practice, you will get there too. What you will need is an open mind,  curiosity and compassion for yourself as you learn a whole new life skill through my guidance. Once you know how to connect to your body and its innate wisdom, you won’t want to go back! To help you get started, you can always have a go at my free resources.    

I offer sessions in English and in Dutch.